I’d always wanted to play tennis. The players were so fit and strong. It was great exercise and looked like so much fun! Plus, the little white skirts.

I finally signed up for lessons.

In the first session, the coach had us pair up and hit a few balls while he went around watching. He spent a few minutes with each couple, offering tips, adjusting their stance and swings.

I eagerly awaited his feedback, excited to know the first thing I should work on.

Approaching us, he looked right at me and said, ‘Well, you never played a sport.’ and moved on to the next couple.

That happened many years ago, yet the memory of my hurt and embarrassment still stings.

I never took another tennis lesson because I let that humiliating memory define my relationship with tennis and define my identity as a non-tennis player for way too long. But I did learn something from it. I learned how NOT to coach someone.

On my journey to becoming a coach, I learned to offer encouragement, positive guidance, and support, and I have been rewarded by witnessing incredible transformations in those I’ve been privileged to guide. Coaching is not just about technique. It’s about being in service to others. My fulfillment is in helping others to be their best self in whatever endeavor they’re pursuing.

Looking back, I realize that the discouraging comment from that coach so many years ago became a catalyst that guided me toward a different path—one where I could make a positive impact on others and redefine what coaching should be.

My unfulfilled tennis aspiration became a vehicle for personal growth, resilience, and empathy.

As I reflect on my journey, I am grateful for that painful memory. It is a poignant reminder of the profound impact a single interaction can have on someone’s life.